Life, goes on
Saturday, October 21, 2017 • 5:01 PM • 0 comments
She has left.
I remember it was Sunday. Last day of May. I remember she was in pain for a while. I remember she could not longer speak. I remember my Grandmother, and she left quietly after every one of us came to say goodbye.

You never really forget someone, or get over someone. You just choose to keep them in a corner of your heart and mind. For some of them, you take them out and flip through the memories like a photo album. For others, you just brush the thoughts aside and get on with life.

I thank God for the blessings in my life, and for the good things to come. Amen.



SONG OF THE MOMENT


I'm never gonna let you close to me
Even though you mean the most to me
'Cause every time I open up, it hurts
So I'm never gonna get too close to you
Even when I mean the most to you
In case you go and leave me in the dirt

But every time you hurt me, the less that I cry
And every time you leave me, the quicker these tears dry
And every time you walk out, the less I love you
Baby, we don't stand a chance, it's sad but it's true

I'm way too good at goodbyes

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Small Things in a Big World
Sunday, July 20, 2014 • 5:29 PM • 0 comments
To start off this post on a usual sunny Sunday evening, I would like to express my deepest condolences to the family and friends of those who were in the unfortunate MH17 incident. My heart sank and my eyes were teary from all the pictures and stories I've been reading. I'm particularly concerned as well because this is an international incident which could lead to many possible outcomes and one of which is war. I hope everyone has learnt enough from past history to know that noone should have to go through war again. It is not as if the world is not chaotic enough with man-made terror in some parts of the world and natural disasters in other parts. I'm thankful to be in Singapore where times are generally peaceful and there are not many natural disasters. However we are a small country and we are vulnerable to these external decisions and events of bigger countries. I saw this quote by someone who laid flowers at the embassy, 'fight for the world; not fight for your country'. We can be proud of our countries. We can engage in healthy competitions or 'fights' like the World Cup, Olympics, Wimbledon. We should recognize that at the end of the day, we are kinda of the same despite our differences in skin colour, religions, beliefs, geographical locations, cultures because when we die, we are all but a body of mass. It's not as if capitalism and consumerism haven't been stripping this Earth of resources enough, war would waste more resources that could be put into many more years of our own survival. And without these resources, without Mother Earth, we won't survive at all. I may not have experienced war but i know enough to not want to go through anything similar.

Looking at the lifeless bodies, it's hard not to feel sad knowing that a moment ago, these were healthy happy people, full of hope and full of life. So despite our differences, life is fragile for all of us. Indeed, no amount of money and power can keep you alive because one day, we all must die. Perhaps absolute peace is an idealistic concept for this lifetime but I hope tolerance and compromise for the sake of peaceful times is definitely worth it for all generations to come.

Peace out. \/

God bless us all. Amen.

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Seoul-ful Sights
Monday, December 16, 2013 • 3:50 PM • 0 comments
10 years of friendship celebrated with a trip to Seoul. Indeed, it was good for the soul. ;)


 Identity crisis during the trip...

I wanted to be a man...a frenchie, with a curly wurly mustache. Bonjour, I am Dominique.

 sometimes a kitty without the mouth...
 or maybe a giraffe?
 But mostly, I wanna be a kitty cat. *meow*

Beautiful winter slopes



Freedom village in the North. It's a sight to behold how differences in thoughts can separate the same people.

My brother and I had a conversation about how the world perceived the northies to be suffering when they could be happy. Friends and I had a similar conversation. Sharing of articles on facebook on both sides of the coin - how people are happy and don't need the 'privileged'to help versus we are self-deluded into thinking that poor can be happy in their own ways so that we feel better about ourselves.

First, happiness can be measured at so many levels - wealth, health and security. I find it difficult to write it into a GP essay/argument so I'm gonna just write my thoughts in points.
  1. Like everything else, there is always a curve. X-axis as one of the 3 factors and Y-axis as the happiness level. Up to a certain point, happiness level will plateau. No matter how much more money, health and security is given, you won't be any more happier.
  2. Happiness and contentment are different concepts but they are also mindsets. They are determined by the individual and are dependent on the amount of resources and the circumstances in which one is bounded by. For e.g., I am born in a farm and I am contented with life as long as i am healthy to work, have food, shelter and my family in good health. I am happy when the weather is good, harvest is good and when there are no natural disasters or poor health. However, if I am ambitious and not contented with a little farm house because I've seen bigger houses on TV or I am driven by factors like i need more money to seek treatment for a family member, then I may not be happy with life and would want to go out there to earn more money.
  3. Someone can be contented with life at how it is now because their knowledge of a good life is shaped by their society and culture. Maybe if they are given knowledge of alternative forms of good life, they may no longer be contented and happy with life. 
  4. So maybe the northies are contented with life because that's the life they are born into and they are bounded by circumstances (i.e., they cannot leave the country). Therefore, they might as well live their life to the fullest. Are they happy and contented? Yes, at this point in time. However, given the freedom of choice to leave or stay? Some may want to, others may not. Because everyone has a different plateau/peak in the curve.
  5. The beggars you see along streets or children with bloated stomachs because they have lack of proteins in their diets? They are probably happy and contented if they can have food and shelter everyday. Is that the end? To let them choose food and shelter everyday or a chance at being educated and work for a living? I won't be surprised if some choose option 1 and others, option 2. Because everyone has a different plateau/peak in the curve. However to not give them the basic food and shelter and security, then they are at the start of the curve and would therefore, definitely not be happy or contented.
  6. In short, happiness is a very very effy concept and has many grey areas. The only way to know if someone is happy, is simply to ask. Even then, they may not really know better either. Most importantly, neither do we. It's a self-perceived value afterall.

Ok, enough of the dreary. It's almost 2014. I really hope it will be an awesome year. More health, more wealth, good travels, good peace, good food, good love and more good progression. Cheers!
xoxo

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Almost the start of another year
Wednesday, December 28, 2011 • 11:26 PM • 0 comments
I had wanted to type "almost the end of the year" but I decided to go with a more positive vibe.
December is definitely a month of engagements and many of my friends are getting married next year.

I'm still bumming around, trying to finish up the dreaded essay, boring as hell and figuring out what I wanna do in future and whether I can do it, achieve it and make it work. In love, I am but it's so flimsy, I feel so unstable. It's as if a rollercoaster ride, up and down, round and round. I want it to stop and I just wanna keep my feet on the ground and walk on. I prefer my walks in the cool evening sun.

So what's up in 2011 and down in 2011? There's no ups nor downs, just events that happened.

For work: Comme Ci, Comme Ça. Able to manage work as it came and while some things could have been worse, it was all well soon after.

Lesson learnt? Shared responsibility for stuff and trumpeting the right things are useful tips sometimes.



For love: had a delayed dropoff and picked up another soon after. Very turbulent, the rollercoaster now but it seems like land ahoy!

Lesson learnt? Give & Take is very important. Time is also another essential factor in relationships. Think positive of each other! I'm still learning!



For family: Everything is getting better and granny can walk with a walker now. Lulu is still a delightful addition to the family. I hope everything goes well next year. I wanna be able to do up my own room! :)

Lesson Learnt: Hang out more! Be Positive!



For friends: So far so good. Because I win some and lose some, now I know who I want as bridesmaids in future. Haha!

Lesson Learnt: It is only in times of need and support that you'll see who's gonna be there and whom you'll be there for.




Seems like 2012 could likely get better. :)
I wish for better relationships at home and at work and with D. I wanna have more money and time to travel more.

Most importantly, I wish for peace, love, health and great happiness.

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